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Whether its through articles, diagrams, or porn, there are plenty of resources available to people who want some ideas for how to improve their sexual experiences. Etkes says that it's crucial to look at a lot of different resources because not everyone knows what they're talking about and much of the advice out there doesn't apply universally. Of course, a person's partner is likely their best resource. While moans and groans in the heat of the moment are somewhat informative, a sit-down talk is the most effective approach to understanding someone else's needs.