Even the most accomplished Lothario wonders what he could be doing better between the sheets. Part of the reason for that is that there's no simple, consistent way to have good sex. No one move or position that works for everyone – a point many people really need to absorb – but there are some standard starting points that can help get anyone on the way to maximizing their pleasure (as well as their partner's). Therapist Don Etkes, author of Loving with Passion and founder of MaximizeSuccess.com, is a certified sex expert and has some straightforward suggestions for those looking to achieve the most fulfilling sex life possible.
Learn New Moves
Even people who don't think they have a signature move probably do. In fact, they probably have a lot of them. "Most men and women touch the way they touched their last partner," says Etkes. There's nothing wrong with trying what's worked before but it's not the way to optimize sexual pleasure. What works for one partner may completely turn another off. Specifically, Etkes says to be cautious about rough stuff, like hair pulling. Moves like that may drive one girl wild but cause another to kick someone out.
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