Most people are guilty of getting too caught up in the wrong thoughts during sex. They're worried about how they look, the weird face their partner just made, or whether they're following their sex moves sequence. Working on being in the moment is one of Zebroff's top tips for building confidence in bed. If a person can embrace the feelings, sights, and sensations of what's going on, those pleasures can crowd out anxieties over performance. In particular, the practice of mindfulness can help some people become more aware and focused on their bodily experiences during sex.