Prepare for the worst.
Sex is a common confidence suck because it can be unpredictable. "There are too many factors in play for each sexual experience to go perfectly," says Zebroff. A huge part of being sexually confident is being ready to react appropriately when things don't go as planned. Zebroff recommends taking some time to think up likely sex obstacles — not getting hard, spilling the lube, elbowing your partner in the face — and imagine how you'd coolly salvage the experience after each mishap.