Go 50 Shades.
The Fifty Shades of Grey series helped make kink and BDSM mainstream topics. More people than ever are interested and exploring these worlds but there is a right way and a wrong way to try these out. "While role-playing, using light restraints, and a bit of spanking can up the ante and ward off the bedroom la dee da's, making BDSM best guesses' [about] bondage, percussion play, and other edgy kinky-play is an absolute no-no," says Malone. He recommends getting educated first through books like The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taromino or SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman or by taking a tour through your local dungeon.