No matter what the situation, you have to communicate what you want in order to get it. This can come in nonverbal forms, like moving your body or theirs a certain way, but talking is the simplest way to get things headed in the right direction. Don't be discouraged if you find discussing sex challenging; many people feel that way. "When things get awkward, communicate more rather than less," says Radakovich. Once you get over some initial discomfort, the conversation will likely become much easier and, hopefully, more fruitful.