Do Away with Past Shame
Many people feel at least a tinge of shame or embarrassment when they're talking about sex, particularly if they are discussing their own desires. "We're so afraid to talk about sex, yet everybody wants to do it," Radakovich. It's natural to enjoy sex and to have sexual fantasies that differ from your partner's. It's also normal to have some awkward situations during sex. Again, focusing on having fun with sexual experimentation is something of a self-fulfilling prophecy — just as being worried you'll embarrass yourself may set you up to feel unnecessarily ashamed.