There is likely to be a difference in what a partner will be up for, depending on your relationship. If partners don't know each other very well, they might want to lower their expectations because they won't likely get into anything too adventurous. "Don't try to have weird, kinky, or 'experimental' sex with someone the first time you have sex with them," says Radakovich."Just be happy you're getting vanilla or any kind of sex." Once a certain level of comfort and trust is established, it will become easier to ask for and try out new things.