Set the Mood
The right mood can be difficult to come by if you're depending solely on luck. It usually takes some effort to create a sexy situation (and an intimate mood can be particularly important for getting women aroused.) A massage, a romantic meal, or a couples' bath can do the trick. The key is alone time. For people who find this a challenge, the Birds recommend planning Pleasure Events for each other, where each partner takes turns planning a sexy surprise for the other. If it's hard to think up an idea on the spot, the Birds say a jar of ideas brainstormed beforehand can help.