Communication Is Key
Talking bluntly about sex can feel clinical for some people but who knows what your partner wants better than she does? To communicate casually, Katz recommends setting up a feedback system, like having your partner pull on your hair if she likes what you're doing and pat you if she doesn't. You can also set up verbal cues. "There are lots of options but you have to create some mode of communication so you know if your partner actually enjoys it," says Katz.