Don't Immediately Blame the Relationship
Couples may worry that a difficult sex life is indicative of bigger problems in the relationship. This can, of course, be true. "For some couples it does come up because there are other issues in the relationship: they're fighting, they're drifting away from each other, something else is going on," says Marin. But she adds that in the majority of situations she has seen, a deprioritized sex life is a fairly self-contained issue. Again, it usually comes down to busy people not having the time or a place to get busy.