Look at the Rest of Your Life
Marin has seen couples for whom their lack of sex life is extremely stressful and frustrating. In this stage, the problem can seem insurmountable. A shift in perspective may help. "What it comes down to in those times is saying, 'Look at what you're doing to yourselves right now,'" says Marin. No one is happy in this situation and the resulting distance can bring relationships to the brink. Fixes for this might be big, like talking to your boss about being overworked. "Sometimes there are tough decisions that have to be made," says Marin, "but I think you have to realize what it is that you're giving up if you continue down that same path."