A lot of places are touting the "State of the Relationship" talk. Marin says talking about your relationship with your partner is great but this perspective on it is not ideal. "It kind of gets built up as this one big conversation that you're going to have about your sex life and that's pretty daunting," says Marin. Instead, have smaller talks. Be comfortable and don't feel the need to address everything at once. Also, consider the timing of your talks. Avoid adding more stress to an especially crazy week but don't hold things in just to accommodate day-to-day stresses.