Be a Little Mean
"For some, nothing is off-limits," Allison explains, "as both are very comfortable with the fact that much of this is role-playing and for mere pleasure and mental excitement. For others, some may take offense to certain words and feel you've gone too far with it, even when it's in the spirit of good fun." Begin with generic derogatory terms like "dirty" and "naughty," and stay clear of "slut" and "whore" unless she's given you the go-ahead (as well as any names of her friends you want to bed). Ask her what she likes to be called. It's a great way to get to know her dirty side. You might be surprised by her response.