Make Her Laugh
"My motto is to lighten up, have fun with it, try new things," Allison says. "And laugh at yourselves! You don’t need to be good at everything." Humor is a major turn on for women, so feel free to be silly with her beforehand (especially if alcohol is involved), but be careful with your jokes, especially during the act: There's nothing funny about her body, and you should avoid any off-handed comments regarding STDs, pregnancy, or a sudden shift in your sexual orientation, unless you've been together for a while. Laughing together is one of the best parts of a sexual relationship. It will come naturally if there's enough chemistry between you. Don't force it. Humor is tricky when people are clothed, so you can imagine how much more difficult it is in bed. If you're using the bedroom to try out new material, consider an open-mic.