Talk to Her First
"Communication is king. Inside, or outside, the bedroom, communication is the single most important aspect to a fulfilling sex life," says Allison, a sex and relationships expert for more than a decade. However, you'll want to gauge how close you and your partner are, so you can be sensitive to her desires. "If you two are comfortable with each other, and have no problem talking about sex and desires, then it should be okay to ask for or say anything in the bedroom. But if you know she's a little shy, it may be best to talk about sex outside the bedroom first, when you're not in the act."