Being Afraid to Try New Things
With the endless varieties of sexual wants and needs out there, people are bound to disagree. "Your partner's wants, desires, and sexual proclivities may be something you've never dreamed of doing or would ever want to do," says Malone. "While that's totally okay, shaming or putting down your partner for their different turn-ons is a sure-fire way to throw water on the fire."
The solution: If you really don't want to participate in their turn-on, let them down easy. Malone recommends the line, "That may be your cup of tea but that's not something I see myself into." If you're not sure if you'd like what they like, consider expanding your horizons. When trying new things, Katz says that people should still remember to stop if something is making them uncomfortable or hurts. (You might think this is common sense but Katz notes common sense and sex are often at odds.)