Being Too Serious
Crazy as it sounds, many of us are guilty of forgetting that sex is supposed to be fun. Whether we're too focused on how we're performing, how we look, or what we should be doing next, many of the experts agree that people need to relax a little more in the sack.
The solution: Let loose mentally, not just physically. "People forget to laugh — sex is fun and funny. It's okay to laugh when there are weird noises, or your dog jumps on the bed, or someone falls off the bed," says Katz. If you can't simply flip the emotional switch, Malone recommends men take their minds off what's going on down below by shifting their attention to mutual pleasure and sensations. For women, he says focusing on breathing and talking with your partner can bring a person back in the moment.