Buying a great Valentine’s Day gift isn’t the simplest operation—primarily because getting it right depends on finding something appropriate for the relationship you’re in. There may be a woman who hasn’t been in your life long enough that you wouldn’t necessarily call her your girlfriend. Or you may have been in a relationship so long that calling your lady a “girlfriend” feels somehow insufficient. What do you buy for the woman who has definitely washed your underwear a few times? Or the one who you right-swiped on two months ago, but who you haven’t ever seen in actual clothes?
This is your guide to navigating the gift exchanges of every kind of relationship—from the ones with the women who know you best to others with ladies who, well, might not know you that well at all. Ahead, 13 different relationships you might be in the midst of, and the perfect gifts for each case. You’re in rough territory here, but we’ve got your back.