There comes a point in many relationships when the sex just isn’t what it used to be. That may seem like a depressing reality but fixing a lackluster sex life requires recognizing it’s an issue. “The first step, and the easiest step, is just to talk with each other about the fact that sex requires prioritizing,” says Vanessa Marin, sex therapist. Communication is almost always the best way to address troubles in paradise but that may not be enough. Read on for other tips for how you (and your partner) can give your sex life its due.

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