Brody Jenner has been a TV personality since 2005's "The Princes of Malibu" and his Instagram account reflects that — awash with beaches, extreme adventures, and beautiful women. But Brody Jenner isn't so two-dimensional. Sure, he's a "DJ" and "world traveler", but he is also an avid outdoorsman who surfs, skateboards, and snowboards whenever he gets the chance. He also drives race cars, sky-dives, and enjoys deep sea fishing. He also cares about men's health. For two years now, he has had honest and often science-based discussions about sex on his podcast, Vibe Talk, with Dr. Mike Dow. Now this format is coming to TV on E! with Sex with Brody which premieres July 10 at 10:30 p.m. Although the network has dubbed him a "sex enthusiast," Jenner knows better than to claim sexpertise. Still, he was game to give us a taste of his personal between-the-sheets advice. Here are his eight bits of wisdom.
Sex is messy, and the act in all its forms is ripe for awkward moments. "If there are strange noises or your heads bump or whatever it is, I would say just keep going," says Jenner. "And don't worry about it because that happens to everybody. It's totally normal." He adds this is one of his favorite pieces of advice to dole out.
Sex doesn't have to wait.
Jenner says to throw out whatever arbitrary rules you've heard about the number of dates you need to go on before sleeping with someone. It's all about letting your sexual chemistry lead you. "I don't think that there's a law or a rule that you need to follow when it comes to chemistry," says Jenner. He says on the first date is fine if that's where the night leads — and so long as partners are being safe.
But you do have to talk about STDs.
The importance of this discussion is a no-brainer for Jenner. It's not the easiest, but it's better to struggle a bit through asking the question rather than worry after it goes unanswered. Jenner's approach is causal — "You know, 'Are you clean? Is it all good?'" — which is a method that may help many of us get through the discomfort.
Don't fear fetishes.
It can be scary to share your personal sexual predilections or fantasies, but Jenner strongly recommends putting this information out there. "It's okay to talk about certain things, like certain fetishes you like or different things," he says. "That's one thing that my girlfriend and I love talking about." It was actually his girlfriend who brought up the topic of threesomes, which turned out to be a shared interest. The rewards that may come from this conversation are often worth the risk.
And don't discuss The Number.
When you are in a sexual relationship with someone, you can't help but be curious about the others who have come before you. There is nothing wrong with that but stop short of asking for specifics, like the number of partners they've had. "That's one of those things you ask and you think you want to know the answer," says Jenner. "Then you hear the answer and you're like, 'Oh, wait a minute, I wish I didn't know that!'"
Stop being so selfish.
The biggest mistake men make in bed? "Oh, that's easy. They're selfish," says Jenner. This is a mistake he admits to making in his own, less-experienced, days. "I was selfish and I learned that is just not smart. Don't do that. Don't be selfish," he says. Jenner's recommended fix for this major blunder is straightforward: men should always make sure their partner climaxes before they do.
Respect others' sex lives.
Whether it's what they like in bed or whom, respect your partner's sex life the same way you'd want them to respect yours. "I think one of the most important things people can say to their kids is just be open to it and be open to other peoples' sexual preferences, sexual orientation, everything," says Jenner.
Know that taboos change.
"I think that sex and sexuality are just so much more free and open. People talk about it and it's all good," says Jenner. "Times are changing. You've got to go with the times."
"Sex With Brody" Premieres on E! Friday, July 10 at 10:30pm ET/PT