Looking to start something new, and a little out there, in the bedroom? First, you’ll have to work through the nerves. “Some people have so much performance pressure and anxiety, and that’s what holds them back from even experimenting in the first place,” says Vanessa Marin, sex therapist. When it comes to any kind of experimentation, she says to relax and keep expectations grounded and fun. Come to terms with the fact that your foray into non-vanilla sex might not immediately be exactly sexy. Once you’re in a playful mindset, check out these tips for how to begin giving different sexual kinks and quirks a go.