You may think of yourself as a suave suitor, but you’re more likely to come off sounding like McLovin’ than history’s greatest lover the first time you try to talk dirty in the bedroom. No worries. Almost anything can be learned with some guidance and a lot of practice. Sadie Allison, a sex and relationships expert and best-selling author, says the best course of action is to talk about what you want ahead of time, but be ready to experiment and have a little fun. “Sex is supposed to be enjoyable,” Allison adds. “People sometimes take it way too seriously, which creates inhibitions and insecurity. My motto is to lighten up, try new things, laugh at yourselves. You don’t need to be good at everything.” Whether you want to test the waters or dive right in, here are 10 things you should consider when adding dirty talk to your bedroom routine.